Should a teacher touch you in this way?
Question by Love, Love, Love 
: Should a teacher touch you in this way?
Hi, i wrote a question a while back about a trainee pe teacher that is a little too friendly sometimes…
Well at the time i came to the conclusion that they were only minor inciddents and i should leave it for the time being…
Anyway, now there have been a few more incidents and i need more opinions…
Please read my other question before you read the next bit so you can come to a conclusion based on all the incidents…
Here: http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjqNREv5_WW_DYaDM4U8OiAhBgx.;_ylv=3?qid=20090604094730AAg1nTB
Ok, hopefully you have read it by now and you will understand…
So…
Now, she has become a fulltime teacher and i now have to have even more lessons with her :S
Ok, first incident, well i was doing theory p.e. and then at the end my proper teacher miss bains said, seeing as you’ve worked hard we can go in the weights room for the last half an hour.
The rest of my stupid group goes “oh i can’t be bothered, can we just sit in here?” I was like ohhh i wanna go in the weights room 
Me and Becca wanted to go in the weights room so we asked miss and she said yeah but she said she would send someone down to supervise us, i was like alright then. So she gave us the keys and us two went off to the weights room.
Anyway, we got there, started doing a few weights and just started doing some skipping and who had to come and supervise us do you think? Typical…miss jordan (the overly friendly one)…FFS lol. She goes to becca, they want u at reception, so becca was like Oh? and went off…
I was like OMG you’ve gotta be joking me…!!!
I sat down on the bench and she sat down next to me and i was like, sheesh here we go again, and actually she wasn’t too bad, she just said “how was your holiday” stuff like that…nothing too bad…
But then she goes, “have you warmed up yet” i was like ermm no.
So she goes get up then, and she started saying different warm up exercises for me to do… I was like hmmm maybe she’s changed…woop.
Well, she hadn’t. She said “turn around” i was like ok…And then she suddenly lept onto my back for a piggy back type thing, i held onto her but i was like omg weirdo.
I was like, must confront her about this!
I laughed and said “Why are you so random?” lol, and she was like laughing and she goes “oh that’s the way i am…” I was like hmmm yeah :S.
Anyway, then becca came back and she didn’t do much apart from lean over me to work the rowing machine.
Now, my friends are starting to think it’s a little odd…But they see the funny side of it…They keep poking me and saying “she’s got a soft spot for you Jodie…” I am like Great lol
Miss Jordan always winks at me in assembly now…I just smile but it’s still a little odd.
Another odd thing that’s happened.
Suspiciously enough i am now in miss jordan’s group for practical p.e.
It was so weird, coz like most of my friends are in the other group. I asked her if i could change but she said then the numbers wouldn’t be equal. And then i asked to look at the register, and my name was at the top, and they weren’t in alphabetical order like they usually are… I asked miss why and she said “well we got to pick and choose with the registers this year and obviously i picked you first Jodie” I smiled to be polite and she winked and stroked down my hair to my back and moved closer i was like OMG.
The final and big one:
Today i had to go and see my english teacher in his office so i went along to that, told him what i wanted and came out. I was walking down the corridoor and i saw miss jordan, i was like f**king great! She goes “Jodie!!” and high fived me, she goes “i hope you’re coming rowing club tomorrow morning?” <<<< Let me explain, miss jordan has organised a rowing club up in the weights room at half 7 every thursday morning so we can go on the rowing machines. >>> I was planning on going with becca and fran so i said “yeah becca and fran are coming too i think” she was like “you better be up in time” i was like erm yeah sure i will. She goes to me “do you want a lift in, where’d you live i’ll pick you up no problem, save you walking…” i was like actually i am gonna walk with becca but cheers. She goes “ahhh alright i’ll see ya tomorrow nice and early…
I was like phew good excuse making up there Jodie…
God, she is creepy, opinions?
Omg today in rowing club more things happened :S but they werent too bad coz there was lots of my friends around and she tuned it down a little. Firstly, despite her pesting me about getting up early and coming, she was late…and i was like omg hypocrite lol jokingly. She goes “oi you!” jokingly and slapped me i was like, sheesh cheeky. Then she sat down on the bench next to me and goes “uh, so tired” and rested her head on my shoulder… I was like lol :S
Haha, i am actually starting to see the funny side now and she is alright
Best answer:
Answer by Ollie
Hi well i do not see what she is doing wrong but you think she is trying it on.The only thing you can do is next time she touches you tell her you do not like it.See how she re-acts.
Good Luck
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It is weird, and slightly creepy, I can see why you are freaked out, if my p.e teacher was like that to me I would be like hmm ok get to hell your weirdo. But anyways, I read your other question, and I think overal, that she is just over friendly, and because your a good student she has a soft sopt for you like no how teachers pick their favourite students and get them to do everything(Teachers pet type of thing), maybe it’s just like that./ I know that it seems weird now, but teachers and pupils are getting kinda closer bonds now(besides maths teacher) and getting along more(in my school anyways) and that can only be a good thing. I think that your just paranoid, but if anything weirde happens, then maybe ask your normal teacher if you could be changed sections, because your not comfortable, even get your mum or something to phone up the school and ask, they shouldn’t refuse you. Anyways hope I helped ya x =]
Miss Kool Beans,
I would say that your teacher is desperately trying to seem to be cool and friendly… and rather embarrassingly is not succeeding. I’m not sure how old she is, but if she has just qualified is probably only a few years older than yourself…. and is trying to be your friend. Indeed, having recently left university she is probably finding it difficult to adapt to the responsible role of teacher.I don’t think anything she has done is overtly sexual, and you sound head-strong and self-aware enough to be able to report/handle events if in the unlikely event they took a sinister turn.
You are fixated on this behaviour, and it is obviously bothering you, yet you are reinforcing it with your nervous laughter and the comments you’ve made to her (like when she jumped on you for a piggy-back). If it bothers you that much then you should confront her, but please think carefully about making any serious accusations, which may firstly cause you embarrasment, but more seriously harm the career of a young, if inexperienced teacher trying her best to be friendly.
I put it to you, that this is a poor young teacher completely out of her depth, just trying to get on with her students…. who doesn’t understand that the way she behaves with her friends outside of school is not how she should behave with her students.
I hope this perspective is helpful… and that you can enjoy the rest of your time in school. *High five!*….. joking.
Go to your parents and get them to talk to a senior teacher in charge of pastoral care this is abuse and you can’t let her get away with it. Explain to your friends how uncomfortable this teacher is making you and they will be able to help you too. Please do this as soon as possible and also make sure that your parents insist that your PE group is changed. This could also be a police matter and if it was my daughter I would definitely get them involved.
Please, please don’t let this go on any longer.
Burgledad’s Wife.
Are you comfortable with another teacher at the school that’s “normal”? Maybe you could talk to them about it, and be like “As a teacher, do you think these things are appropriate or not?” etc. Another teacher might be able to help you more without you having to go extreme and get your parents or the principal involved.
don’t want to worry you but this is serious, you need to share this with your parents and then the headteacher of the school, I’m afraid it will be unpleasant and stressful for you but not as unpleasant as it will become for you and others if nothing is done
Sounds like she is trying to be “cool.” It’s mildly inappropriate, and you should let her know it’s making her uncomfortable. If you tell a principal or something, she might lose her job.
Instead, go to her and tell her you feel like she is giving you too much attention. The extra attention that she gives you is embarrassing and making you uncomfortable. If she continues to treat you like this, then it is time to talk to higher authority.
You need to tell this woman to stop touching you! She either thinks you to are pals (which is still not appropriate) or she has less pure motives….
It’s nice that you can see this as funny, but it sounds really inappropriate. Good for you for not getting into her car.
It doesn’t sound like you want her to get in trouble, but even if she is only trying to be your friend, she needs a heads up that this isn’t OK.
It might be enough for you to physically shy away or try to look really uncomfortable when she touches you, but if that doesn’t work, just ask her to stop. This isn’t right.
It sounds like she is young herself and trying to befriend you. She sounds like she cares for you personally and feels comfortable enough with you to let you know it.
If you think of it in a negative way, the situation will turn negative. Right now you are thinking about it in that way, so you see every little touch or word as OMG! There she goes again!
Look at it from her point of view and you may see she’s just reaching out to you. Maybe for her own comfort in her new job as a young teacher. She is only human and can’t read your mind, so if you laugh and play around with her too, she will think it is ok to do that with you.
If you tell her in one of those ‘alone’ moments in a friendly yet serious way then you may see she is more like you than you think.
Give her a chance to be human before you go ruining her career because if even one person says something negative about a person it will follow them everywhere they go for years to come, because someone will always say, “There goes that teacher who…”
If she really crosses the line and sexually harrasses you, then you should tell someone.
Until then don’t worry about what she hasn’t done.